After a little while of chatting and waiting and waiting for responses, My response: Unfortunately, you’re running into the sad situation that is online dating.
Too many women have fake profiles that are used for making money, i.e., directing men to paid porn sites or personal Web sites or just asking men outright for money.
A Singles’ Dating Convention member sent this to me: “I’ve recently joined a different singles’ site and am running into the same issue I’ve had with the previous ones I’ve been involved in.
It seems that somehow my profile targets only those that are looking for money, or are spam. For example, the other night I got a message from a lady on Plenty Of and responded to her and then she quickly responded giving me her Yahoo screen name to IM her.
They need to make as many contacts as possible—remember it’s a numbers game. You are doing the best you can by being smart and wary of potential fakers. Will enough singles get fed up with the not-so-great state of online dating and demand better from the industry? As a contributor to online dating industry forums, I continue to bring up the issues associated with fake profiles: liars, thieves and cheats, and the accountability of the industry for a solution.
Even if you put on your profile in bold letters, “No Fakers or Sex Industry Professionals,” it won’t help. My suggestion for your first contact, if you’re worried they’re not telling the truth, is to ask them outright. The standard industry reply is that “it’s not cost effective” and that “singles won’t pay for it.” Well, singles are “paying for it” in time, frustration, dissatisfaction and with their wallets.
Most fake profiles don’t take time to fill in all the sections, or have trouble with correct grammar, or even basic English.