I yawned my way through weeknights with a tutor or at a prep program, and I spent my Saturdays at Korean school hating life while learning how to be a better Korean. "You're not married to this so-called boyfriend of yours yet — what's the big deal? Actually, just be willing to eat everything when you're around me.
So I'm neurotic about some aspect of that, whether it's my weight or the particular paleness of my skin or my big feet or what have you. Don't cross me when I'm mad because something like the kimchi slap will happen to you.
Why V-Day is scary Valentine’s Day creates pressure to sort out all this confusion, and also gives people an excuse to define their relationship with certainty.
In China, and I believe in other Asian countries as well, there is only ONE type of relationship. Overall, Americans are very very cautious on the dating scene.
You are either boyfriend and girlfriend, or pure friends, so there is no chance to be confused. It can sometimes take a long time for a romantic relationship to develop into an official boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. There are all kinds of different stages of relationships that foreigners need to be aware of, and some of them will always seem kind of ridiculous (like the open-relationship stuff, I am just never able to get it).
I was listening to On Air with Ryan Seacrest a few days ago, and a girl called in crying, saying how disappointed she felt that the guy she was dating did not take her out for Valentine’s Day.
The hosts said that this was normal - the guy and girl did not have the exclusivity talk to figure out where they were in the relationship, and obviously they were not on the same page. A couple of my American friends told me they would rather just be alone on V-Day, even though they are dating someone. Because they are just not sure if they are ready to take the dating to another level, and they do not want to create a misunderstanding with their partner.
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